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Sex Positions to Play with Erotic Asphyxiation

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Erotic asphyxiation involves intentionally restricting oxygen and blood flow to the brain in order to enhance your level of sexual arousal.  By restricting oxygen and blood flow levels going to the brain, someone who is being asphyxiated can achieve a feeling of being high, or light headed, causing them to be more aware of the pleasures their body is experiencing during sexual arousal.

When the pressure is released, oxygen and blood rapidly flow back to the brain giving the victim added exhilaration through the release of dopamine and serotonin.  All of this often results in more intense orgasms and pleasure throughout the body.

In erotic asphyxiation you are either giving up or taking a ton of power from your partner.  This sort of bedroom fun should be talked about before getting into action with a safe word agreed upon and an idea of just how far both of you are willing to go.  It is also a good idea to test out lightly choking each other before you get into actual play time so you have an idea of what it will and should feel like.  By doing some test chokes with your lover you can both get an idea of how much pressure the other is willing to take, and incorporate less pressure into the erotic asphyxiation sex time.

Dominant and Submissive Roles

There is also a dominant and submissive factor at play if your lover is causing the oxygen and blood flow restriction to your brain while gently choking you during sexual arousal.  You are engaging in sexual activity with your lover while they exert their dominance over you by dictating how much oxygen you get to breath in.  This form of dominant and submissive play is also known as breath play.  Conversely, you may enjoy taking the role of the dominant player and receive pleasure from dishing out the punishment by controlling the breath play on your submissive partner. 

Breath Play and Choking Sex

Of course, if both you and your lover want to experience the high from erotic asphyxiation, you can engage in sexual positions that allow both of you to choke the other during sex.  This can produce mind blowing orgasms and connections as you are not only sharing your bodies with one another, but sharing in the experience of breath play simultaneously.

Here are some sex positions that make it easy to engage in erotic asphyxiation and choking during sex.  This list will allow one or both of you to choke the other during sex with your hands, arms, or legs.

Lotus Position

 

The lotus position is great for extra intimacy as you will find yourself face-to-face with your lover without the need for aggressive thrusting.  Your faces and bodies will be interlocked while your sway back and forth with each other until arousal.  Of course, this closeness also allows two lovers to choke one another at the same time if they so desire. 

The man will sit cross-legged, or with his legs stretched out, while the woman will sit on top of him and wrap her legs around his waist for support.  Bring your bodies as close together as you can by hugging and caressing each other. 

To add in breath play, you both will have easy access to choking each other’s necks.  Focus on the side of the necks are where the carotid arteries as opposed to the front of the neck.  Putting too much pressure on the front of the neck can cause damage to the larynx.  Conversely, just a little pressure on the sides of the neck will restrict blood flow to the brain and give the tingling feelings that come from erotic asphyxiation.  Start with just a little pressure and work your way up to more if your partner desires, though always keep an eye on their face to make sure you they have not passed out.  The lotus position is great for this as you will have a clear and upfront view of their face at all times.

Doggy Style

If the woman wants to experience erotic asphyxiation by the hands of her man during intercourse, then the doggy style is the best position to go.  Here the woman is being dominated both by the sex position - as doggy style is often viewed as a submissive taking from a dominate position – and also by the act of choking which the man will be able to do easily from behind.

 

He can use one hand to pull her hair while the other gently applies pressure to the side of her neck.  He can also wrap one arm around the front of her neck and perform a light rear naked choke on his woman.  Be extra careful with this one as it only takes a little pressure to make someone go unconscious.  In addition to a safe word, it would be a good idea for the woman to hold something like a pair of keys in one of her hands.  She should squeeze the keys in her hand tight so that it is not moving.  If she happens to pass out without the man realizing, she will inadvertently drop the keys and the man will hear the keys fall to the ground, indicating that he should let go immediately.

Cowgirl

 

If the woman will be doing the breath play on the man than the cowgirl position is the way to go.  Some men enjoy the feeling of being completely dominated by their woman.  The cowgirl sex position already has the woman in a dominant position as she sits on top of the man as he lies on his back.  He’s already in a vulnerable position as her body weight will make it hard for him to get up if that’s what he wanted to do.  She is also in the perfect position to apply pressure to his neck with her hands as all she had to do is lean over to reach his neck.

The woman can ride her man while exerting pressure on his neck for the ultimate erotic asphyxiation experience.  She will feel like the dominate femme fatale that she was born to be, while he lays helpless in his submissive state.

Flying V

Another position that gives both lovers the ability to inflect erotic choking during intercourse is the flying V position.  The man will start kneeling on the ground.  The woman will then straddle the man as he enters her.  The woman will then lift up her legs and wrap her calves around his neck for support and lift her body up so that it is close to the man’s body.  The man will put one hand behind the woman’s back for added support.

Once the position is secured the two lovers can enjoy each other’s bodies will maximum intimacy as their mouths and faces will be inches apart.  In order to apply sexual asphyxiation, the man will have easy access to the woman’s neck with his one free hand.  Meanwhile, the woman can gently squeeze her calves together to apply pressure to both sides of the man’s neck.  Enjoy the ecstasy as you reach orgasm together while feeling the effects of the erotic asphyxiation.  As a reminder, be sure to keep an eye on each other in case one passes out.

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