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How to Fight Relationship Boredom

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Finding a person to share your life with is a beautiful accomplishment.  Sure, there are times when you just want to be alone and wish you were single.  Ultimately, having that special someone to share unique moments throughout the year is worth giving up a little bit of your complete freedom to do whatever you want and whenever you want.

One of the most important reasons to keep your relationship healthy and free of boredom is to maintain a healthy and regular sex life with your partner.  You get to engage in regular sexual activity which has been shown to have both physical and mental benefits.  Assuming that you are both faithful, you also can push the limits in sharing each other’s bodies as you don’t have to worry about any sexually transmitted disease surprises.

Ironically, while consistent sexual activity is a major benefit of a relationship, the lack of or tapering off of such activity is often the cause of relationship boredom.  Staying active in the bedroom while mixing things up with new positions, techniques, role-play, and foreplay ideas is a great weapon against relationship boredom. 

Why do Couples Become Bored with their Relationship?

Couples can become bored with their relationship for a variety of reasons. Here are some common reasons: 

  1. Routine: When couples get into a routine, they may start to feel like they're going through the motions and not experiencing anything new or exciting.
  2. Lack of novelty: Over time, couples may stop doing the things that were once exciting and fun. This can lead to a feeling of boredom and a lack of excitement in the relationship.
  3. Communication breakdown: If couples stop communicating effectively, they may become disconnected from each other, leading to a sense of boredom and dissatisfaction.
  4. Stress: External stressors such as work, financial difficulties, or health issues can take a toll on the relationship and make it more difficult to maintain a sense of excitement and novelty.
  5. Unrealistic expectations: Couples who have unrealistic expectations of their partner or their relationship may become bored or dissatisfied when those expectations are not met.

The first three reasons - routine, lack of novelty, and communication breakdown - are things that happen directly related to the relationship and therefor can be solved with a little assistance and work.  Stress and unrealistic expectations are derivates of the first three issues; in other words, if the first three issues are taken care of, stress outside of the relationship and unrealistic expectations of your partner won't become issues.


Relationships are meant to enhance your life and not add extra burdens.  If you are avoiding relationship boredom by keeping things unique and exciting, the relationship will fight against stress, and you and your partner's expectations of each other will be met.

 Fight Relationship Boredom

Here are several ways to fight relationship boredom:

  1. Try new things together: Trying new activities or hobbies together can help you create new memories and deepen your connection. You can try things like cooking a new recipe, taking a dance class, or planning a weekend getaway.
  2. Spice things up in the bedroom: Introducing new sexual experiences or experimenting with new positions can help reignite the passion in your relationship.
  3. Make time for date nights: It's important to carve out time for just the two of you. Whether it's a fancy dinner out or a cozy night in, setting aside time to focus on each other can help keep the spark alive.
  4. Communicate openly: Talk to your partner about your feelings of boredom and work together to find solutions. Being open and honest about your needs and desires can help you both feel more fulfilled in the relationship.
  5. Surprise each other: Surprise your partner with small gestures, like leaving a love note or buying their favorite snack. These little acts of kindness can go a long way in keeping your relationship fresh and exciting.

The five techniques listed above to fight relationship boredom can all be accomplished through Role-Play Adventure plans that are designed to spice things up in the bedroom.  The packages allow couples to try new things and spice things up by introducing themselves to new role-play and foreplay ideas.  The platform forces couples to make time for special date nights, as well as communicate with each other in preparation for the date night.  Finally, participating in the role-play adventures will allow a couple to surprise each other and who off a side to their personality that their partner may not have known existed.

The Importance of Date Nights in Relationships

Date nights are important for couples as it is used to remind both partners that the other values the other.  Once in a committed and long-term relationship, it is easy to get into a day-to-day routine and disregard the romanticism that existed early on in the relationship.  

Date nights can help to ground a couple and remind them that being in a long term relationship is supposed to be fun.  If you and your partner have been dating for a long time, it's important to switch up your date night routine and try new things. Here are some date night ideas to consider: 

  1. Have a themed dinner night: Choose a theme, like Italian or Mexican, and cook a meal together. Decorate the table and create a romantic ambiance.
  2. Take a class together: Sign up for a class that you both are interested in, such as painting, pottery, cooking, or even a sexually themed class. You'll learn something new and have fun together.
  3. Go on a weekend getaway: Plan a weekend trip to a nearby city or town. Explore new places and try new activities together.
  4. Have a game night: Play your favorite board games or card games together. You can even create a tournament and keep score, or even make it a fun sexy bedroom game.
  5. Take a dance class: Sign up for a dance class, such as salsa or swing dancing. You'll learn new moves and have fun together.
  6. Go on a picnic: Pack a basket with your favorite foods and head to a park or beach for a romantic picnic.
  7. Volunteer together: Choose a cause that you both care about and volunteer your time together. This will bring you closer together and make a positive impact in your community.

Often when mature couples - especially ones who are raising kids - bring up the topic of a date night it involves having a family member watch the kids so that the couple can go out for a romantic dinner.  

That is the PG rated version of the date night.  If you're really trying to maintain a healthy and sexually active relationship decades after first starting the relationship, then date nights have to scale up to the R rating.  All of the ideas above should incorporate sexual activity into the date, or just be a sex date straight up.

Have a themed dinner night, followed by dessert in bed with chocolate covered strawberries and whip cream that can be spread over the body.  Set up a game night with  stripping involved.  Maybe even challenge your partner to a sex wrestling match.  Take a dance class in the privacy of your own bedroom by watching a YouTube video with the lesson.  Instead of wearing normal clothes, spread coconut oil over your bodies and try the dance style while naked.

Spice Things Up in the Bedroom to Avoid Relationship Boredom

Whatever date night you choose make sure their is a sexual element or theme to that date.  Spicing things up in the bedroom can help reignite the passion in your relationship.

Here are some examples of ways to directly spice things up in the bedroom:

  1. Experiment with different positions: Trying new positions can add excitement to your sex life and help you both discover new things you enjoy.  If you are into choking try erotic asphyxiation sexual positions.
  2. Role play: Dressing up and acting out a scenario can add a new dimension of excitement to your sex life.  Play with dominant and submissive role-play ideas.
  3. Incorporate sex toys: Experimenting with sex toys can help you both explore new sensations and add variety to your routine.
  4. Try different locations: Having sex in a new location, such as a hotel room or outdoors, can make the experience feel more spontaneous and exciting.
  5. Explore new fantasies: Talk to your partner about your fantasies and try to fulfill them together.
  6. Use sensual massage: Massaging each other with oils or lotions can help you both relax and feel more intimate.  Try incorporating Shibari bondage games while performing the massage on your partner to ramp up the sexual tension.



The overall best way to fight relationship boredom is to keep things fresh and fun in the bedroom.  If you and your partner have lost that loving feeling and are looking for ways to reignite the spark, look to for exciting foreplay, role-play, and bedroom games to play that all lead to great sex.

Variety is the spice of life, and when it comes to sex, that variety can be with the same person over and over again if you know how to keep things fresh.  Role-play adventure platforms at will make you and your partner feel like you are having sex for the first time with each other every time.

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